I have found out that love doesn’t guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to one person. After all, cheating isn’t always a product of not loving your partner.
In fact, Loving someone doesn’t guarantee not falling in love with any other person.
Relationships work out mostly because of our head and not our heart. It’s works out because of emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline. You see, times will come when you’ll see more beautiful, handsome, intelligent, sexy, curvy and God fearing people than the one you’re in a relationship with. In those times, Love will not help you. Self control will. Emotional intelligence will help you. Commitment will help you. No matter how you feel for someone, the person you’re committed to ranks first in your life. You think married people don’t see better people than the ones they married? You think they don’t feel funny sometimes? You think they don’t catch feelings? They do. But understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is a great arsenal to destroy that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone, but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them. It takes more than Love. We are too fond of loving when it’s convenient, when it’s sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After then, you’ll realize that the feelings have dropped. It’s now your responsibility to make it work, not love’s responsibility.
Building a relationship is hard work. It’s like building a career. It’s like pursuing a dream. It’s always tough. It will sometimes be so bitter but you can make it work.
Everyone falls in love, it takes no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only the emotionally mature and the self disciplined can do that.
That’s why we must find one person and commit to that one. Discipline yourself. Bridle your emotions.
Relationships cannot be ready-made. You must build it and it’s never always about love.
On the long run in marriages, it’s not love that keeps them together again. The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together.
Be emotionally strong! Sticking to one person is not natural. You must develop yourself to do that.